Well, I'm back once again on this topic of love. This time I'm inspired by a young man I met at a singles social event I attended last week. This event was for singles which consisted of a complimentary drink and discussing several different topics. They also do occasional speed dating. The topic of that day was 'why do men cheat'. There were several other topics discussed, but I was fixed on this one.
It immediately struck me as odd when this young man admitted he was a 'cheater' and felt that it was fine as long as he was up front in the beginning about his life style. He was the facilitator and creator of this event. He felt it's better to be honest and give someone the chance to opt out rather than lead someone on. He strongly felt that he should be able to do this as long as he held it down and was a great provider. I actually admired how confident this young man was about his beliefs. In other words, confidence can take you a long way.
It didn't surprise me that no one really knew exactly why men cheat. A couple of men offered their opinions about the subject. One gentleman appeared to have a very high emotional IQ and was able to offer some interesting thoughts on the subject. He was married and older than the young man I'm referring to. Unfortunately, I did not take notes and don't remember exactly what was said. Ultimately, I believe anyone who cheats does so because of irresponsibility and a very poor emotional IQ.
Anyway, I sat quietly taking everything in because I did not want my opinion to offend anyone and I definitely had a different point of view. Towards the end of this event the young man I'm referring to made an attempt to explain why he felt he was in the 'elite' category. Maybe because he was young, attractive and made excellent money, I don't know. The more he attemted to explain the less convinced I was. He ended up admitting he's 99% sure he does not want to get married and if he ever did it would be with someone who could accept his cheating and be willing to have a threesome with another women. He knew for sure that there are women out there that would accept this and I totally agree. I totally feel that this young man would feel differently if he were unattractive, over forty and broke. For sure maturity would change his feelings about this whole thing.
I appreciated dudes honesty and confidence, but I didn't buy this at all. When anyone talks like that it goes deeper than anyone can imagine. I'm no psychiatrist, but it doesn't take one to figure this out. I see alot of hurt and pain in this young man masked by his confidence. In other words, I felt dude had a low emotional IQ. That was the most confused thing I've ever heard. How could anyone make sense out of that? It's sad how people have gotten away from the essence of love and being human. We live in a world that is so use to negativity that we have become adjusted and accept this as the norm. We put love and humanity on the back burner and put our jobs and selfish needs ahead of everything. How can this be right? It angers me when I hear someone say "I don't have time to date because my career is more important". I believe 100% in The Grind, but in no way should it ever take the place what's human. We are getting so use to doing this that it's also becoming acceptable.
In summation, my goal is not to 'out' anyone nor tear them down. It's more important to me for people to get back to putting love first. We cannot cheat on our mates just because we're great providers and think it's ok. We definitely cannot put The Grind before love. When it's all said and done we can't take it with us... When we're gone from this earth the money gets left behind. Matthew 18:18 says Verily I say unto you, Whatsoever ye shall bind on earth shall be bound in heaven: and whatsoever is loosed on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Now, That Human!! Let's get back to Love... Don't get mad at me, just enlighten me...Peace!!
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