This Thing Called Love

It's amazing how the human relationship is one of the most difficult things in the world to figure out. I've heard this question so many times, " what is love"? There has been numerous debates on the radio and amongst friends in regards to this subject. It's funny how many actually really don't know what love is. Well, God summed it up for us in the scriptures. He kept it simple knowing we would have trouble trying to figure this thing out all by ourselves. The scripture says, "There is no fear in love for perfect love casteth out all fear. I've seen this phrase broken down by some of the smartest individuals out there, but no matter which way you look at it they are all still saying the same thing. The word fear is a very powerful thing, because fear is what makes love imperfect. Fear will cause poor communication, lack of responsibility and lack of value for another.

I don't hear people saying too much about the word 'value'. I often wonder why this is the case because we have value for so many irrelevant things in life, but we have trouble valuing one another. Therefore, my assumption is that people understand value just as much as they understand what love is. Value can make or break a relationship. What you put value in is the thing that you take the most pride in. Unfortunately, we take more pride in our homes and cars and tend to put human relationships on the back burner. We don't nurture our relationships and care about each the way it was actually meant to be. If a relationship doesn't work out we simply turn it lose or throw it away and we're on to the next one. The sad part is people will fight for their houses and die for their cars. It's an atrocity how we've failed to prioritize the most human thing of life which is love. When I had no 'value' I dated a guy my good friend really liked and I almost lost her friendship. When I learned to value her I let him go. I put her first and I was fine with it. Thank you Lord for teaching me value at an early age.

I would love to see people have more positive interactions with one another. Communication is an essential ingredient of life and without it there is no functioning. Lack of it is like taking a bath without water. It's literally impossible to pull off. We don't talk to each other, listen to each other nor practice honesty the way we should. We are so afraid that if we tell the truth we will end up losing out. Unfortunately, we still lose because we failed to be honest. Oh, my guess is that poor communication coincides with fear.

I believe relationships fail due to the reasons I've mentioned, but most relationships fail because we poorly choose the people we allow into our lives. I get it as far as making mistakes when we are young and first starting out, but it's sad when you find you've reached a certain stage and still don't get it. It's such a shame to see a person continue the same pattern never learning from prior mistakes and never maturing in love. Thus allowing this to make them even more cold and miserable. Relationships are meant to learn from not make you cold hearted and miserable. It's supposed to prepare you to be better and know the right one when you see him/her. I often ask how did we get this so backwards? Oh yeah, I'm guessing that would be fear.

In summation, Love is what is going to end up healing the world. I still believe in the essence of love and I have great hopes that we can improve our lives and relationships one individual at a time, one soul at a time. Like Oprah says, we've gotta learn to live our best lives. Let's get back to being human and and putting love first. Let's make a pack that this will be part of transforming ourselves into better lovers and friends... Please feel free to make a comment on anything I've said. Like I always say, don't get mad at me just enlighten me...Peace!!