Looking for Mr. Right. I want to talk about something different this time. Well, it's a different topic for me. I've been single for awhile by choice. I've gotten to the point where it's time for me to get out of my safety net and take it to another level. I'll keep this short, sweet, and to the point because relationships are really not that deep. The key is keep it simple. Things get difficult sometimes because we make it hard. Here's some things I want to share. If you don't agree don't bitch, just enlighten me.

I think being in a relationship is like looking in a mirror. It's all good in the beginning, then after a few months all the emotions start coming out. In other words, 'baggage'...Then the challenge comes as to whether the two of you are really made for each other and can withstand the test of time. Half the time we pick the wrong people prior to being able to figure out exactly what we want. It's important to know what you want instead of allowing someone to pick you when you were never interested from the beginning. It should go both ways. Not just one person being interested and doing all the chasing. It's definitely something off if someone has to chase you.

You have to take time to get to know someone. Talk on the phone, go on some dates and meet the folks, learn his/her patterns prior to giving up the cookies. If a person does not want to wait then ask yourself if this is what you want. If it's not then stick to it. You do not have to cave or change your values for nobody. It's about you and what you want. If you indulge in one night stands while searching for Mr. Right, just know your role. Don't fail to remember you could get pregnant, std, or you could get attached. Sex is spiritual. When you sleep around your sleeping with too many spirits. Let's be real about this. If you must do this then don't get attached and consider you might have some kind of attachment issue and may need help...Seriously.

Ladies there are so so many good men out there and vice verse. Just because your 'good people' does not mean that someone is right for you. A person has to fit you like a glove. You should feel content to be yourself when your around him/her. He/she should accept, understand and 'get you'. He/she should be able to make you a priority and keep it 100 at all times.

The bottom line is learn from all your mistakes and don't dwell. Be able to move on gracefully because past relationships are only preparing you for the 'right one'. So ladies and gents get your pen and paper and start the interviews. Expand your search, but don't settle. The Right One is waiting to accept the position. In the meantime, have fun! So with that being said, I'm about to go snatch me something up! I'll definitely be back for part two...Smooches

Well hello everyone! Just stopping by to wish you and yours a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! What a joyous time of year this is. I love everything about the Christmas holidays. From the shopping on Christmas eve to decorations, wrapping presents, family and friends and I can't forget the 'endless' job Christmas parties. That's actually the only time of year that I'll have a couple of drinks. But you ain't heard that from me. Anyway, let us all remember what Christmas is all about. Remember Christ was born and we are celebrating his birth. It's sometimes very easy to forget that Christmas is all about love.
Isn't it weird how we are already ending a whole decade? Everything went so fast. I remember the scare we all had when the year 2000 came in, and look the world is still here. This year has been a very taxing year for me. So many unexpected events out of nowhere. I didn't see it coming. But I'm blessed to have a God who loved me and kept me on solid ground. I'm still feeling the after effects, but definitely looking forward to the coming year. Out with the old, in with the new. I'm looking forward to new friends, new family, new everything! Why not??... God bless you and have a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!!! Smooches

Forgiveness:

Forgiveness is on my mind today. I've been working hard on becoming a better person especially since the new year is quickly approaching. One thing I must do is forgive those who have seriously wronged me and caused me pain. I realize I'm carrying pain and it hinders me from being able to move in a more positive direction. I never really understood what it actually takes to forgive someone. I use to think that all I had to do is forget about the situation and bury it behind me. Now I'm finding out that I need to do a little more because I'm still holding on to the hurt. I need to accept what happened and understand they didn't know any better, therefore, they did not do better. I need to forgive myself for being so hard on me. These situations happened to help me to grow as a person and take life to another level. It wasn't meant for me to fall apart or carry hurt in my heart. I'm supposed to learn from everything that happens to me. Holding on to pain can only make you sick physically and mentally. You never know where God is leading you. He meant for mountains to be climbed and roads to be crossed in order to make you a better person. This way He teaches you how to recognize the difference between right and wrong and have a sense of power. Being unforgiving leaves you powerless. I'm feeling a great sense of relief as I attempt to let go of all the wrongs people did to me. Pray for me in my journey. God bless you in your journey". In the words of Whitney Houston, "I ain't got nothing but love for you...Peace!

Yesterday I tweeted "Be mindful of becoming too judgemental. All of us are flawed and all of us have something to offer the world." I'm watching what's going on with the Tiger Woods saga and I think it's a sin and a shame. Such a talented and gifted young man living the 'Dream'. People couldn't wait for him to fail so they could finally judge him and tear him apart. I'm sure some folks have their opinions and would like to see him crucified, yet the ones who are doing all the pointing are the ones who quietly did the same thing. Some folks fail to recall that God is the only 'One' Tiger has to answer to. God will chastise His children, break us down and build us up to how 'He' wants us to be. We are all God's children and He loves us all. No one is exempt from His love. He who is without sin let him cast the first stone. Those who have never sinned or never done anything wrong 'Stand Up', oh I didn't think so. I am so tired of people being so judgemental. I was just as surprised as everyone when I heard what happened. Trust me Tiger will pay for his mistakes, but you will never know what the outcome will be between him and God. Hater's might not get the outcome they were hoping for. I simply hope Tiger is a believer. If not, maybe he will be after what he just went through...You know he's not trying to lose it all for one moment of stupidity...Peace!