Moving On

I was recently talking to one of my friends about relationships. She needed some encouragement to move on. I'm no expert, but I enjoy counseling people to help them feel more empowed. It seems like so many women are single and feeling alone right now. I see it in my friends/family and alot on twitter. Deep down we all know what we need to do. There is no reason to hold on to something that will more than likely never amount to nothing.We spend so much time rehearsing in our heads what happened or what went wrong. The bottom line is he is simply no longer your type. Sometimes we are too much in love to figure that out. Unfortunately this has happened to the best of us.
I believe when a man leaves it has absolutely nothing to do with us or anything we did wrong. He simply got to the point where he was not willing to take the relationship to the next level. He knows that's what you expect and he can't give it to you. He would rather start all over again with someone new. This way he doesn't have to face himself or the fact that he is uncommitable and will not be settling down or getting married until he is like 65 years old.
Why is it that men are always strong enough to let us go and move on with their lives and we're left doing most of the crying and wining? I've never heard of men wining the way women do. I'm pretty much tired of it. Especially when he waits only one week to put his new girl in your face, then call you behind her back to try to have sex and her dumb ass don't know the wiser. The sad part is most of the time he can accomplish just that while we are still vulnerable and in denial. They know if they give us one second we will let go and move on. There's something about the male ego when he no longer wants you, but he always wants to know if you still want him. I've seen it where they never go away if you don't take a stand. This has happened to me and many of my friends and family. Unfortunately I see it all the time.
I hate it when ladies think men still want them because he vacillates between whether he wants you or not...Well no!...A string is a string. Take it for face value. It won't get any better than that. My motto is no more strings in 2010! I can do bad all by myself. If he doesn't recognize a Queen when he sees one that's his issue not yours and if you don't think your a Queen then why should he think your a Queen?
The bottom line is you are doing the same thing he is by not giving yourself a chance to take your life to the next level. How can you complain about him when you are doing the same thing? If you can't get to the next level with him then try it with someone else. I think God allows us to have several relationships to prepare us for the not the 'right' one, but the 'one' who's right for us. Most men are not as bad as I'm saying right now. I'm only speaking from my own experiences and what I constantly see on a regular basis.
So ladies let's start picking them and stop letting them pick us, but do it in a way where it appears he actually approached you. We are 'never' desperate and can date ourselves until we find 'him'. Best of luck everyone. I'm in this race right with you! Peace....